Become a Relationship Badass
Stop bracing for the crash.
Build the skill to handle conflict, desire, and charged intimacy without losing your center.
A 12-week relational training for self-aware people who are done collapsing when love gets intense.
we start September 24
Francesca has been featured in:
The Quiet Collapse
+60% of people are not satisfied with their intimate relationships 😳
60. Fucking. Percent.
So, you, beloved, are not alone.
If that were the failure rate of a bridge, we wouldn’t drive across it.
But in love, we call it normal (ekkemmm, no thank you)
If you’re here, you’re one of the brave few who decided to venture off the beaten path in search of more fulfillment. Pause while I throw you a mini-parade in my brain.
But, you know it, and I know it: Exploring your sex and intimacy outside the bounds of how we’re ‘supposed to’ is a ride as painful as it is pleasurable (and sometimes maybe even more so).
The future of relating - where you become the most erotically empowered version of yourself - reclaiming and receiving your deepest sacred needs - will require you to show up in ways that we're all wildly unprepared for.
HOT TAKE
Bridges don’t collapse out of nowhere.
Steel doesn’t wake up one morning and decide to give up.
There are hairline fractures, rust in the joints, bolts that loosen one millimeter at a time…
And babes, relational collapse happens the same way, too.
It looks like…
swallowing what you want because disappointment feels inevitable.
going sharp when you feel cornered.
pretending you’re fine while quietly calculating how much more you can tolerate (and your revenge plan + exit strategy).
"She is powerful and drives at a truth that so many people fear to seek and express. Through this work I realized I’m capable of deeper knowledge and wisdom within myself."
Laura
"Her integrity and her fearlessly facing life in all its aspects is very impressive. You learn a lot from her by the living experience that she is. she is very wise and in alignment with common sense."
Nela
"Thoughtful and reflective, without the fluffy nonsense. Highly recommend for her depth of knowledge. She is so inspiring and engaging."
Natasha
The Buddhists Say…
“The Buddhists say, if you meet somebody and your heart pounds, your hands shake, your knees go weak… that’s not ‘the one’. When you meet your ‘soul-mate’, you’ll feel calm - no anxiety, no agitation.”
know it?
It’s a pretty popular thought.
WELLLLL, ya girl did her homework… and, spoiler, the Buddhists never fucking said that 🙄
Who did, you ask?
Her name is Monica Drake and she wrote that in her 2010 fictional novel Clown Girl.
I shit you not.
Disney = Clown Girl Buddhism
…see it?
you become a healing junkie
who works to become so perfectly healed
= so perfectly secure attached (aka unaffected biologically)
= you finally meet “the one”
and you can live happily-ever-after
Have ya had one of those cool-calm-collected relationships? The ones that feel predictable + look picturesque on the outside.
Most of us have tbh.
Whether it’s a white picket fence with the kids and a mini van or the fancy NYC couples eating over priced eggs at bottomless brunch or the conscious lovers at a festival in the jungle, we’ve all had a movie moment.
Buuuut lemme ask yaaaaa… how was, like really? How was the sex? How was the depth? Did you feel raptured in ways that blew your heart open and your panties off?
my bet = no.
I bet it was boring AF…
I bet you felt stuck…
I bet you felt that dull kinda torture that leaves you staring up at the ceiling at night, saying to yourself: is this really all there is???
HOT TAKE
You’ve been taught to vilify chemistry, hot passion, and conflict…
And you probably even started to shame ‘trauma-bonding’ as an ‘unhealthy’ relationship dynamic.
Well, that’s just what people without skillzzz say 😉
Chemistry and Trauma-Bonding are not inherently bad or the villain in the story of our lives…
And, spoiler, they happen to lead to the best sex of your fucking life — scuuRRrrrrRr I said what I said.
but chemistry and trauma-bonding are to be respected and approached wisely
(aka: like an adult with real grown-up skill)
So how can you ever have the rapturous hot sex that chemistry brings if you don’t actually have the skillzz to navigate it?
Pray for Peace.
Train for Reality.
I was raised in a house where we prayed for world peace, but we also learned not to be naive when reality demanded precision.
My father (a man who could end you calmly without his heart rate spiking) taught me early on:
“There’s no honor in not being able to do something.”
He taught me that innocence isn’t a virtue if it’s just because you’re helpless.
Modern culture handed us two terrible models:
✖️ disney fantasies where love means having no teeth.
✖️ gritty anti-heroes where intensity means burning everything down.
And I hated both of those options…
so I built something else.
For the last 20 years, as an engineer, a dominatrix, and a woman living in high-intensity relational spaces, I built my own frameworks.
I tested them in the dungeon, refined them in my long-term partnerships, and broke them in the messy reality of NYC dating until I found what actually worked.
Because I am definitely not here to have boring AF sex y’all 😂
Daddy Frankie is here, sluts…
Let’s shoot it straight:
Love without skill is a fantasy that leads to epic disappointment + self destruction + looping pain spirals of “buttt whyyyy?!”
I knowWwwWw… you want that Black Diamond level rush… the soul rapture of depth and intensity…
but, babes, you’re approaching it with Bunny Slope level skills.
In my world we don’t avoid the risks —
We look them dead in the eye and learn how to be precise in the midst of allll of itttt.
look around
The world is not getting softer.
If you don’t have a fortified container now, the chaos of the world will find the cracks in your relationship and split them open.
(and not the fun kinda split open; where Daddy takes his hard cock and destroys you from the inside out 🤤)
Training isn't a luxury for 'someday.'
It’s armor for today.
I’m not here
to sell you a fantasy
If you’re looking for someone to promise that once you “heal enough,” conflict disappears and love becomes effortless then:
I ain’t ya gal.
That’s a promise love marketers sold you to keep you buying things…
not reality.
Meaningful relationships are high-stakes cuz people are effing messy! You will get hurt (bet, I still get hurt!)
But the difference between a Relationship Badass and everyone else isn’t that we don’t bleed.
It’s that we don’t bleed out.
Most people get a scratch and it turns into a systemic infection that kills the relationship.
But when you have the protocols, frameworks, and tools then you know how to tend to the wound.
We don't pretend the fire isn't hot; we just learn how to walk through it without getting third-degree burns.
First Aid Kit
for the Soul
This is where you stop ‘waiting for the other shoe to drop’ or ‘clenching for the crisis’…
And you start walking through life with a unshakeable peace that knows “I got this”
And, holy fuck, that changes everything about how you experience joy, bliss, and play.
do you know how to…
Feel the surge of anger,
and ride it without detonating?
Feel the pull of desire,
and boldly shoot your shot without vomiting?
Feel epically heart broken,
and know how to metabolize it without a story?
Not just theory babes, like IRL.
If you do, then great! You can totally pass on Becoming a Relationship Badass.
But if you’re still reading, then chances are you secretly know that you don’t actually have those skillzz built inside of you - bone deep, blood thicCccc - in an embodied way that makes it all second nature muscle memory.
Welcome to the Frontline
I don’t do passive anything.
This is applied practice where we focus on the how.
Knowing the target exists doesn’t mean you can hit the bullseye.
This is why therapy hasn’t saved us yet…
Because knowing the theory is one thing;
Becoming masterful in the practice is another.
Here, on the frontline, we prepare for intensity so that when the moment of heat comes (when the fight starts, when the trigger hits, when the fringe fantasy gets your blood pumping) you don't have to think…you just move.
That is the gap this program bridges.
We are moving from "knowing better" to "doing better."
By the end of twelve weeks, you won’t be perfect — you’ll be equipped.
And that changes everything.
we start September 24
"I began to look at relationships and repair through a completely new lens, one that allows me more freedom and more personal power in my relating. Priestess Francesca cuts right to the point AND speaks with compassion."
Brittany
"I developed an embodied capacity to discern my boundaries and limits in an ongoing way. Francesca brings a deeply poised wisdom into every space she enters... she leaves you changed on a mental, emotional, and physical level… not just cognitively with new ideas."
Asha
“Only in this space can we explore our desires, our wants, our needs, and identify where we can improve relationships. My biggest takeaway was learning that I need to create a trigger and aftercare plan!"
Shawna
The Six Core Competencies of a Relationship Badass
Over twelve weeks, we train six core relational competencies.
Skills that compound over time and reorganize how you show up in love.
This is the curriculum.
🛡️ MODULE 1: THE SOVERIEGN SELF
Decompartmentalization & The Virginal Lover
Most people have been taught to keep their sexuality in a separate room — something expressed privately, managed carefully, or only brought out in specific contexts. Meanwhile, your leadership, your boundaries, and your relational negotiations operate somewhere else. That split is subtle, but it costs you coherence. As long as your erotic energy is compartmentalized, you are easily controlled.
In this module, we reintegrate what was never meant to be divided because erotic energy ain’t a performance tool; it’s a source of authority. We’ll break the lie that your sexuality belongs separate from the rest of your life, and train you to carry steadiness that doesn’t need managing.
You’ll get the tactical breakdown for:
Embodiment vs. Attunement: Untangle the difference so your self-protection becomes precise instead of reactive.
Limits vs. Boundaries: Learn the structural nuance between what you can handle and what you will accept.
The Paradigm Shift: From leaking energy to keep the peace to containing your own power.
The Core Protocol: Virginal Lovership. Learn to circulate your own energy before offering it outward, ensuring you play from overflow, not deficit.
⚖️ MODULE 2: THE AGREEMENT ARCHITECTURE
Sacred Needs & Negotiation From Reality
Most people think they’re arguing about behavior (like frequency of texts, tone of voice, who initiates). But behavior is rarely the real issue. Underneath almost every recurring conflict is an unmet sacred need. When that layer goes unnamed, people negotiate tactics instead of truth.
In this module, we replace silent hopes with clear terms because unspoken expectations are just resentments waiting to happen. You will learn to map your actual capacity versus your desire and stop the reliance on implied contracts so percolating conflict loses its oxygen.
Together, we’ll map the structural mechanics for:
Dynamic Capacity: How to name your shifting capacity without apologizing for being human or collapsing into self-abandonment.
Normalizing Sacred Disappointment: How to tolerate the tension of setting a clean "no" without retreating into distortion.
The Paradigm Shift: From assuming they know what you need to explicit, real-time agreement architecture.
The Core Protocol: The Dialogue Journey. A precise framework for requests, refusals, and conditions that replaces emotional leverage with clean articulation.
🗝️ MODULE 3: THE SHADOW & THE SHAME
Radical Sexual Permission
Most people relate to desire in one of two ways: they either indulge it impulsively or suppress it morally. Very few people investigate it. Desire is not random. It carries emotional history, psychological architecture, and unmet longing.
Here is where we look at the things you are terrified to admit. We dismantle the performative "spiritual narratives" that are actually just suppression in a flowy dress and look at your deepest desires— not as problems to be solved, but as intelligence to be integrated.
Radical permission does not mean acting out every impulse; it means being honest about what is true inside you and taking responsibility for how you steward it.
You’ll map out:
Tracing the Hunger: How to trace a sexual desire back to the emotional function it serves so that you can integrate it honestly.
Mismatched Desire: How to stay connected without collapsing into deprivation or entitlement when appetites don't align.
The Paradigm Shift: From shaming your hunger to feeding your truth.
The Core Protocol: The Exploration Container. How to hold structural space for taboo and intensity without collapsing into chaos.
🎯MODULE 4: THE ALCHEMICAL FIRE
Trigger Mapping & Aftercare Plan
Not every discomfort is a red flag. Not every trigger is something to regulate. And not every intense moment is damaging. If it’s hot, it’s healing — but only if you don’t burn the house down.
Most people either avoid activation entirely or explode inside it. In this module, we stop trying to avoid triggers (or regulate them away) and start mapping them. You will learn to stay real with what’s real when every instinct tells you to crawl in a hole or swing for the jaw. This module builds you a wider range so you stop entering connection with a clenched jaw and start trusting your capacity to meet the fire.
You’ll learn field protocols:
Discerning the Heat: How to identify whether the discomfort in front of you is something to alchemize through or set a boundary around.
The Aftercare Plan: Consciously negotiating support and integration after a powerful expansion so intensity deepens trust instead of destabilizing it.
The Paradigm Shift: From reactive explosion to alchemical response.
The Core Protocol: The Trigger Plan. Your personal diagnostic kit for the exact moment the nervous system floods—how to hold the machete without swinging wildly.
💎MODULE 5: THE ANCHOR
Integrity While Deeply Hurt
It is easy to be generous when you feel loved. The real measure of relational skill is who you become when you are disappointed, rejected, betrayed, or gutted. Most harm in relationships does not come from malice; it comes from distortion while hurt.
This is advanced work. We train your ability to stay in integrity even when your heart is on the floor. This is not about being calm or being "the bigger person." It is about being clean. You will learn to find your Anchor — the part of you that can witness the storm without drowning in it.
Module 5 is all about:
Pain vs. Suffering: Distinguishing between the two without the love-and-light bypass.
Metabolizing Betrayal: How to feel everything and still choose your behavior consciously, stopping the creation of collateral damage.
The Paradigm Shift: From victim of circumstance to student of intensity.
The Core Protocol: The 4-Part Energy Check. A diagnostic tool that reveals whether you are operating from helplessness, destruction, repression, or righteousness before you speak or act.
✂️MODULE 6: THE GOOD DEATH
The Art of a Good Goodbye
Every relationship ends. Sometimes in partnership, sometimes in separation, always in transformation. Most people are taught how to fall in love; almost no one is taught how to leave with integrity.
So endings become messy, reactive, blame-filled, or dragged out way past their expiration. In this module, we approach endings as initiations. You will learn the fine art of a graceful separation: how to close a chapter with as much devotion as you opened it, and how to let things die so that you can actually be reborn. This is not breakup advice. This is relational adulthood.
You’ll get all the closing frameworks:
Completion vs. Discomfort: How to discern when something is actually over versus when it is merely hitting friction.
Grief Without Identity: How to mourn a dynamic without turning heartbreak into a permanent personality trait.
The Paradigm Shift: From clinging to the corpse to honoring the ghost.
The Core Protocol: The 4 Pillars of Uncoupling. How to exit in a way that preserves your dignity, takes responsibility for your part, and creates clean ground for the future.
we start September 24
“"My dudes, I went to this workshop primarily to sh!t talk about it later to friends...
AND THEN I was blown away by the succinct analysis and weird as f*ck shit dropped in casually.
Color me intrigued.
After attending an in-person class about conscious uncoupling, my date at the time gushed, 'I've never wanted to be in a cult before, but I want to hear more from her.'"
— Connie WHAT’S INCLUDED
IS SHE INSANE?!
probably, but I like it that way 😏
Revolutionary Studio Teachings
Each module was taught live and recorded with the level of clarity and voltage this work deserves. The energy is palpable. The content is uncensored. In my world, we kick it Jerry Springer style — anything can happen, and usually does.
Filthy & Functional Resource Vault
I am giving you the actual operational documents I use in my own relationships to keep things clear. Trigger Planning, Scene Creation, Dating Resumes, Communication Hacks, Aftercare Protocols…
I’ve already built the car… babes, you just need to drive it.
Script Frameworks
Your tongue needs more muscle memory training than just knowing how to lick flesh (though that is very helpful).
Most people fail at implementation because they simply don’t know what words to say when the adrenaline hits.
Practice Library
“there’s something different about your practices” - every BRB member ever
Yup, I know hehe
Most meditation practices get you relax, rested, and (at best) a little grounded.
But the ones inside BRB are applied practices… they’re where you bring the life situations too complex for a framework. The big choices that can’t fit into a box so you can make space for the revelations that only God can deliver.
From deer in headlights to soul-deep victory lap.
You walk away with sacred confidence and clarity that your brain coulddd nevaaaa.
6 Live Coaching Labs
Theory is tidy. Reality is messy.
Every other week, we get on a live call to take these concepts out of the textbook and into your actual life.
Ask Me Anything whether you’re navigating a contract with a lover, a power struggle with a boss, a spiritual crisis, a meltdown within a community, or a standoff with a rando on the subway… We workshop it in real time so you leave with clarity, not just catharsis.
🆕THIS YEAR🆕
6 Relationship
Design Days
Freedom isn't picking option A, B, C, or D. Freedom is learning how to fill in the blank like a total baddie.
We'll take the philosophies and frameworks and use them to design the blank page of your relational life.
I’ll guide you through design exercises so you start making real decisions about what you're building, what you stand for, what you need, what you're available for, and what you're no longer willing to contort yourself around.
AKA: do it like an adult.
🆕THIS YEAR🆕
The Frontline Group Pulse
DEF no FB groups + DEF no "vanilla" community. This is a private, encrypted Telegram channel for the BRB cohort only.
It’s where you can navigate the "messy middle" in real-time with other badasses. When you’re mid-negotiation, hitting a trigger, or designing a scene and you need a high-fidelity gut check from people who speak the same language as you… this is where you go.
⚠️SHE CRAY??⚠️
Lifetime Invitation
Once you've been through BRB once, you have an open invitation to every future live cohort.
At no additional cost.
Not because I want to sell you the same thing over and over (that would be a total snooze)… But because real relationship building isn't a course you finish.
It's a practice you keep returning to with new material, new lovers, new life circumstances, and (hopefully) a lot more delicious questions than you started with.
⚠️SHE CRAY??⚠️
Daddy Frankie’s (DP) Money Back Guarantee
I’m putting my money where my Brooklyn mouth is with two layers of protection:
THE 30-DAY VIBE CHECK: If you get inside and realize my Brooklyn sass, snap-back, and sweatpants aren’t for you, or the architecture doesn’t land, just hit me up within 30 days and I’ll give you a full refund. No questions asked.
THE 365-DAY IMPACT GUARANTEE: This work is a slow burn. I want you to take a full year to stress-test the 6 Core Competencies in the real world. If you follow the 12-week Become a Relationship Badass roadmap and don’t see a massive, positive impact in at least one relationship in your life (whether that’s with a lover, a parent, a kid, or your boss) I’ll give you back every last penny.
we start September 24
"It is possible to design for so much in relationship, from how to enter into dynamics with adequate vetting to transitioning out with grace. Priestess Francesca opens portals of understanding through reframing conceptual approaches to real-world issues."
Connie
"She has a way of delivering information with a calm intensity & a splash of humor. She addresses vulnerable topics while offering clear action plans moving forward. It's easy to understand & implement her material right away."
Andrea
"Francesca is very grounded in herself and deeply confident in the content she teaches. She has an incredible way of deconstructing complex or difficult topics and presenting them in a way that feels accessible, thoughtful, and easy to integrate."
Maria
THE INVESTMENT
Economic Sovereignty &
Self-Selection
I believe that relational literacy is a survival skill and a human right, not a luxury good ++ there is a real cost to building something this structured.
So, we do this the way a functional civilization does:
We use a Sliding Scale.
You know your current reality.
You know your resources.
Choose accordingly.
CHOOSE YOUR SEAT
Tier 1: Sponsorship $1, 497
You have financial security and economic power.
If you own property, maintain personal savings, or have the disposable income to pay for "wants" without stressing over basic necessities, this is your seat. You possess economic privilege in this community. Stand in your capacity and anchor the space.
⭐most popular⭐
Tier 2: Reciprocity
$997
You are stable, but building.
You have a steady income and your basic needs (food, shelter, medical care) are secure, but paying the sponsorship level would create genuine hardship. You are likely paying down debt or moving away from paycheck-to-paycheck living.
Tier 3: Access Rate
$697
You are navigating deep economic friction.
This tier exists because your current economic reality should not lock you out of relational training. If you are struggling to secure basic needs, living strictly paycheck-to-paycheck, or carrying crippling debt, this seat is yours. Your investment at this level is respected and honored exactly the same as the highest tier.
The Cost of Ignorance
vs. The Cost of Training
I’m not going to insult your intelligence with the standard internet marketing math.
You know what I’m tawkin ‘bout 🙄
I tell you this program is worth "$14,500" because I assigned an arbitrary value to every tool and practice, then I slash the price to make you feel like you won the lottery.
I don’t play those games.
I am an Engineer. I deal in actuals, TYSM
here’s the actual math of staying untrained:
The Cost of Therapy
$250/week to analyze the wreckage after every fight. ($12k/year).
The Cost of Divorce
$15k–$30k in legal fees, plus half your assets, plus the immeasurable cost of unwisely tended heartbreak.
The Cost of Attrition
The slow, grinding loss of your own vitality because you are constantly managing a relationship that drains you instead of one that fuels you.
The Frontline is the infrastructure that prevents the collapse. It is the training that makes all the therapy speak seem outdated and the gutting breakup avoidable (or at least, graceful).
Questions you might have…
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Our first opening prayer and orientation call is on Thursday, September 24 @ 1p ET.
After that, we settle into a regular rhythm. Most calls will take place on Thursdays at 1:00 PM Eastern Time.
You will receive a full calendar integration the moment you step inside, so you can block off the time and treat this training with the discipline.
Major Holidays will be considered and we’ll be wrapped before Christmas 2026.
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This is a 12-week training cycle, alternating between self paced learning, relationship design calls, and live coaching labs where you ask me anything.
Pre-recorded lessons and live calls last approx. 90 minutes.
You also don’t HAVE to go in order… I am not interested in burying you in busywork, endless PDFs, or bloated fluffy modules! You bring the challenge to a call and I can point you to the exact relational skill and tools you need to sharpen right now.
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You will not fall behind if you miss a live session. Every single teaching and coaching call is recorded and uploaded to your portal promptly.
Because I engineered this program to be precise and highly usable, all coaching calls are fully time-stamped. You won’t have to scrub through two hours of video to find the exact framework you need. If you know you can’t attend a coaching week live, you will have the opportunity to submit your questions to me in advance. I will answer them on the call, and you can jump straight to your timestamp to get your tactical breakdown when you have the capacity to sit down and integrate it.
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No. The most intense front line you will ever navigate is your own internal terrain.
Whether you are actively navigating a complex partnership, recovering from a brutal rupture, or preparing your system to hold a higher caliber of intimacy in the future, the training remains the same.
You need emotional precision and erotic clarity regardless of your relationship status.
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No. You can join single, partnered, dating, married, monogamous, non-monogamous. The work is about your capacity, your life, your relational design.
You bring whatever relational dynamic you’re currently navigating and we werRrrkk ittt.
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You choose your tier based on your personal integrity and financial situation. There are no fake bonuses, no countdown timers, and no manufactured scarcity attached to the tiers.
Access to the training is exactly the same regardless of what you pay.
Audit your reality honestly, pick the tier that aligns with your resources, and step forward.
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Yup! Here are some things to think about
Seat of Access Pricing Guidelines:I frequently stress about meeting basic needs and don’t always achieve them
I have debt and it sometimes prohibits me from meeting my basic needs
I rent lower-end properties or have unstable housing
I do not have a car and/or have limited access to a car but I am not always able to afford fuel
I am unemployed or underemployed
I qualify for government benefits
I have no access to savings
I have no or very limited expendable income
I rarely buy new items because I am unable to afford them
I cannot afford a vacation or have the ability to take time off without financial burden
Seat of Reciprocity Pricing Guidelines:
I may stress about meeting my basic needs but still regularly achieve them
I may have some debt but it does not prohibit attainment of basic needs
I own or lease a car
I am employed or have steady income in my business
I might have access to financial savings or Access To Work funding
I have some expendable income
I am able to buy some new items & I thrift others
I can take a vacation annually or every few years without financial burden
Seat of Sponsorship Pricing Guidelines:
I am comfortably able to meet all of my basic needs
I may have some debt but it does not prohibit attainment of basic needs
I own my home or property OR I rent a higher-end property
I own or lease a car
I am employed or my business is successful
I have access to financial savings
I have an expendable** income
I can always buy new items
I can afford an annual vacation or take time off
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You do not need their permission to build skill.
When one person upgrades their clarity, the dynamic shifts. Sometimes that deepens connection. Sometimes it reveals truth. Either way, you will be more equipped to navigate what follows.
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I couldn’t build something basic if my Brooklyn ass tried.
In fact, professional therapists and formally psychedelic facilitators have called this “revolutionary”. Yup.
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Bringing clarity to a dynamic can create movement. Movement can feel destabilizing. But avoiding Truth only leads to depletion.
Only you can decide how much draining torture you can handle before you start getting honest.
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Absolutely not. If you are looking for a place to passively vent about your ex or endlessly excavate your childhood trauma, this is the wrong room.
This is relational combat training in service of love. We will look at your triggers, your power dynamics, and your erotic blueprints strictly for the purpose of diagnostics, skill-building, and authentic relationship design.
You are here to learn how to stay anchored under pressure and how to build connections you actually like (not fake pretend like lol).
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Nope. I have a deep respect for therapy. Therapy helps you understand why you respond the way you do.
But it can only take you so far…
This work helps you respond differently - helps you do better once you know better.They complement each other beautifully.
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Nope. Have we met? I’ve worked on skyscrapers in Manhattan and in high-protocol dungeon scenes where psychological stakes were sky high. I know what intensity feels like in a room.
Whatever you bring (rage, grief, desire, jealousy, annihilation) I can hold it.
Intensity is not the issue.
Untrained intensity is.When you learn how to direct it, intensity becomes leadership. Devotion. Precision.
Please don’t be less… but also, please don’t be untrained.
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Growth at this level asks something of you.
We don’t throw you into the fire and hope you figure it out.
We teach you how to hold heat without getting 3rd degree burns. -
Let’s be real… the "conscious relating" streets are crawling with charlatans and "sacred-sex" coaches who leave you feeling like you need a boiling shower to get the ick off 🤢
I’m not them. My work is about Relational Architecture for the heavy weights, not airy fluff.
In the world of edge play and high-intensity intimacy, consent isn't just a "yes" at the start — it’s an ongoing negotiation. I treat this journey the same way.
Think of the 30-Day Guarantee as your Safe Word. Sometimes you get into a scene (or a course) and realize within minutes that the vibe is off or it’s not what you agreed to. If that happens, you call your safe word, we stop, and you get your money back. No questions.
But I also know that real transformation is intense. Sometimes, you don't realize you’re in a "Relational Hangover" until months later when the dust settles and you finally come back to yourself. That’s what the 365-Day Guarantee is for. If a full year goes by and you realize this architecture didn’t actually hold up in your real life, you still have an exit. I don't want your money if I don't have your ongoing, empowered consent.
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Abso-fucking-lutely.
Here's something I've been sitting with: The data on online courses is kinda gross — somewhere between 85-95% of people never finish what they buy. A lot of them never even open the dashboard.Online educators (and that $430 Billion, with a B, industry) should be humiliated with themselves.
Naturally (for me), I've been asking: sooooo what's the actual antidote?
And I think it's this... when you let people belong to something that keeps moving and evolving, they move and evolve with it.
So I'm making a culture decision for my business, right here, right now:
If you've been through BRB once, you have an open invitation to every future live cohort.
At no additional cost.
Because I believe real relationship design isn't a course you finish…
It's a practice you keep returning to with new material, new circumstances, and (hopefully) a lot more delicious questions than you started with.
"I've gained real-world skills as well as deeply transformational permission to honor my own wisdom. She keeps it real! The wisdom Francesca offers is so relevant and liberating."
Justine
"Profound knowledge and wisdom in the relational field — sassy, fun, fierce, and deeply rooted. Her wisdom around the repair process is a necessity."
Aoise
"It is a joy to learn from her wisdom... it has without exaggeration made me a better human being. More worldly, loving, self-accepting, and definitely hotter. She teaches you how to handle the tailspin and the power move."
Winston
meet your guide
Priestess Francesca
“people are like tea bags, you don’t really know how they taste until they’re in hot water” - me
For years, I lived a double life in New York City: designing HVAC systems for skyscrapers by day and working in high-protocol BDSM dynamics by night. Steel, pressure, infrastructure in one world. Power, desire, and psychological intensity in the other.
Both taught me the same thing: systems fail when the load exceeds capacity.
For nearly 20 years, I’ve steeped myself inside the alternative lifestyle scene (BDSM, kink, non-monogamy) not as “just a phase” or as an interesting adventure to try… but as someone who can’t not be this.
The wisdom inside Become a Relationship Badass was forged in real dynamics, real negotiations, real rupture, and real devotion to doing better.
This body of work is rooted in entrainments as a trauma-informed somatic sexologist, ordained Priestess, certified dominatrix ready to work skillfully with the body, with archetype, and with altered states of intimacy. The mystic and the mechanic live in the same Priestess.
I’ve been featured in Cosmopolitan, Gothamist, Health Magazine, and on top 1% podcasts worldwide. I’ve spoken at universities including Salve Regina and Sarah Lawrence, and at festivals such as Envision, Dom Con, and Toronto Tantra Festival.
But credentials aren’t what make this work different.
What makes it rare is my ability to hold intensity without flinching.
To dissect power without moralizing it.
To sit inside relational rupture and see the architecture underneath it.
Students often say, “I’ve never heard it explained like this.”
Or, “I learned more in an hour with her than I have in years on my own.”
I’m def not a savior. I’m a seriously creative designer and an insanely skilled technician who’s on a mission to build humans who can stay anchored in love when things get intense.
Because intimacy is not a side project IMO.
It’s critical infrastructure for our collective future.
Stand Differently
You cannot stop a war across the ocean if you cannot negotiate a ceasefire in your own kitchen. You cannot build a "conscious community" if you fall apart the moment someone triggers your attachment wound. You cannot hold the weight of the collective if you cannot hold your own center in the presence of a lover who disappoints you.
Relational skill is not domestic self-help.
It’s civilizational skill for a new world order.
If you can stay steady in the most intimate arenas of your life you will stand differently everywhere else.
Fall 2026.
We begin September 24.