THE INVESTMENT

Economic Sovereignty &
Self-Selection

I believe that relational literacy is a survival skill and a human right, not a luxury good ++ there is a real cost to building something this structured.

So, we do this the way a functional civilization does:
We use a Sliding Scale.

You know your current reality.
You know your resources.
Choose accordingly.

CHOOSE YOUR SEAT


Tier 1: The True Cost

The True Cost: $1,997
$0.00

You have financial security and economic power.
This is the actual cost of the training. If you own property, maintain personal savings, or have the disposable income to pay for "wants" without stressing over basic necessities, this is your seat. You possess economic privilege in this community. Stand in your capacity and anchor the space.


Tier 2: Middle Ground

The Middle Ground: $997
$0.00

You are stable, but building.
You have a steady income and your basic needs (food, shelter, medical care) are secure, but paying the true cost would create genuine hardship. You are likely paying down debt or moving away from paycheck-to-paycheck living.


Tier 3: Access Rate

The Access Rate: $497
$497.00

You are navigating deep economic friction.
This tier exists because your current economic reality should not lock you out of relational training. If you are struggling to secure basic needs, living strictly paycheck-to-paycheck, or carrying crippling debt, this seat is yours. Your investment at this level is respected and honored exactly the same as the highest tier.

"I've gained real-world skills as well as deeply transformational permission to honor my own wisdom. She keeps it real! The wisdom Francesca offers is so relevant and liberating."

Justine

"Profound knowledge and wisdom in the relational field — sassy, fun, fierce, and deeply rooted. Her wisdom around the repair process is a necessity."

Aoise

"It is a joy to learn from her wisdom... it has without exaggeration made me a better human being. More worldly, loving, self-accepting, and definitely hotter. She teaches you how to handle the tailspin and the power move."

Winston

Questions you might have…

  • Our first live training begins on Thursday, April 16. After that, we settle into our regular rhythm. Most calls will take place on Thursdays at 1:00 PM Eastern Time.

    You will receive a full calendar integration the moment you step inside, so you can block off the time and treat this training with the discipline.

  • This is a 12-week training cycle, alternating between teaching weeks and coaching weeks. You should expect to spend about 90 minutes on the live calls (or watching the replays), plus another hour throughout your week applying the frameworks to your actual life.

    I am not interested in burying you in busywork, endless PDFs, or bloated fluffy modules! You bring the focus, and I provide the exact relational skills and tools you need to execute.

  • You will not fall behind if you miss a live session. Every single teaching and coaching call is recorded and uploaded to your portal promptly.

    Because I engineered this program to be precise and highly usable, all coaching calls are fully time-stamped. You won’t have to scrub through two hours of video to find the exact framework you need. If you know you can’t attend a coaching week live, you will have the opportunity to submit your questions to me in advance. I will answer them on the call, and you can jump straight to your timestamp to get your tactical breakdown when you have the capacity to sit down and integrate it.

  • No. The most intense front line you will ever navigate is your own internal terrain. Whether you are actively navigating a complex partnership, recovering from a brutal rupture, or preparing your system to hold a higher caliber of intimacy in the future, the training remains the same. You need emotional precision and erotic clarity regardless of your relationship status.

  • No. You can join single, partnered, dating, married, monogamous, non-monogamous. The work is about your capacity. You bring whatever relational dynamic you’re currently navigating.

  • You choose your tier based on your personal integrity and financial situation. There are no fake bonuses, no countdown timers, and no manufactured scarcity attached to the tiers.

    Access to the training is exactly the same regardless of what you pay.

    Audit your reality honestly, pick the tier that aligns with your resources, and step forward.

  • Yup! Here are some things to think about

    Seat of Access Pricing Guidelines: 

    • I frequently stress about meeting basic needs and don’t always achieve them

    • I have debt and it sometimes prohibits me from meeting my basic needs

    • I rent lower-end properties or have unstable housing

    • I do not have a car and/or have limited access to a car but I am not always able to afford fuel

    • I am unemployed or underemployed

    • I qualify for government benefits

    • I have no access to savings

    • I have no or very limited expendable income

    • I rarely buy new items because I am unable to afford them

    • I cannot afford a vacation or have the ability to take time off without financial burden

    Seat of Reciprocity Pricing Guidelines:

    • I may stress about meeting my basic needs but still regularly achieve them

    • I may have some debt but it does not prohibit attainment of basic needs

    • I own or lease a car

    • I am employed or have steady income in my business

    • I might have access to financial savings or Access To Work funding

    • I have some expendable income

    • I am able to buy some new items & I thrift others

    • I can take a vacation annually or every few years without financial burden

    Seat of Sponsorship Pricing Guidelines:

    • I am comfortably able to meet all of my basic needs

    • I may have some debt but it does not prohibit attainment of basic needs

    • I own my home or property OR I rent a higher-end property

    • I own or lease a car

    • I am employed or my business is successful 

    • I have access to financial savings

    • I have an expendable** income

    • I can always buy new items

    • I can afford an annual vacation or take time off

  • You do not need their permission to build skill.
    When one person upgrades their clarity, the dynamic shifts. Sometimes that deepens connection. Sometimes it reveals truth. Either way, you will be more equipped to navigate what follows

  • I couldn’t build something basic if my Brooklyn ass tried.

  • Bringing clarity to a dynamic can create movement. Movement can feel destabilizing. But avoidance is not stability. It’s delay.

    We move at the pace of capacity, not chaos.


  • Absolutely not. If you are looking for a place to passively vent about your ex or endlessly excavate your childhood trauma, this is the wrong room. This is relational combat training in service of love. We will look at your triggers, your power dynamics, and your erotic blueprints strictly for the purpose of diagnostics and skill-building. You are here to learn how to stay anchored under pressure.

  • No. Therapy helps you understand why you respond the way you do.
    This work helps you respond differently.

    They complement each other beautifully.


  • Nope. Have we met? I’ve worked on skyscrapers in Manhattan and in high-protocol dungeon scenes where psychological stakes were sky high. I know what intensity feels like in a room.

    Whatever you bring (rage, grief, desire, jealousy, annihilation) I can hold it.

    Intensity is not the issue.
    Untrained intensity is.

    When you learn how to direct it, intensity becomes leadership. Devotion. Precision.

    You don’t need to be less. You need to be trained.

  • Growth at this level asks something of you.

    We don’t throw you into the fire and hope you figure it out.
    We teach you how to hold heat without getting 3rd degree burns.


meet your guide
Priestess Francesca

“people are like tea bags, you don’t really know how they taste until they’re in hot water” - me

For years, I lived a double life in New York City: designing HVAC systems for skyscrapers by day and working in high-protocol BDSM dynamics by night. Steel, pressure, infrastructure in one world. Power, desire, and psychological intensity in the other.

Both taught me the same thing: systems fail when the load exceeds capacity.

For nearly 20 years, I’ve steeped myself inside the alternative lifestyle scene (BDSM, kink, non-monogamy) not as “just a phase” or as an interesting adventure to try… but as someone who can’t not be this.

The wisdom inside Become a Relationship Badass was forged in real dynamics, real negotiations, real rupture, and real devotion to doing better.

This body of work is rooted in entrainments as a trauma-informed somatic sexologist, ordained Priestess, certified dominatrix ready to work skillfully with the body, with archetype, and with altered states of intimacy. The mystic and the mechanic live in the same system.

I’ve been featured in Cosmopolitan, Gothamist, Health Magazine, and on top 1% podcasts worldwide. I’ve spoken at universities including Salve Regina and Sarah Lawrence, and at festivals such as Envision, Dom Con, and Toronto Tantra Festival.

But credentials aren’t what make this work different.

What makes it rare is my ability to hold intensity without flinching.
To dissect power without moralizing it.
To sit inside relational rupture and see the architecture underneath it.

Students often say, “I’ve never heard it explained like this.”
Or, “I learned more in an hour with her than I have in years on my own.”

I’m def not a savior. I’m just a technician… A technician on a mission to build humans who can stay anchored in love when things get intense.

Because intimacy is not a side project IMO.
It’s critical infrastructure for our collective future.