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You are the Server
Babessss, you’re the one who shows up and makes it all about their pleasure! But let’s be real, you've probably been told you’re “doing too much” or “over-giving” more times than you can count.
You’re the one who finds fulfillment in contributing and in making others feel good, but somewhere along the way, you might’ve lost sight of your own capacity (or worse, believed it’s your responsibility to cause someone’s pleasure). You’re here because you’re tired of doing everything and feeling drained, and you’re ready to learn how to serve without sacrificing your own needs. It’s time to stop overextending and start showing up strong… without the crash.
True giving is not self sacrifice
It's a conscious contribution fully aligned with your capacity.
so what does it all mean?
Listen up, love…
being a Server means you’re the one who shows up, puts in the work, and makes it all about their pleasure.
You thrive on contribution and knowing that your service creates joy and connection.
But here's the kicker: you've probably been doing it wrong. The shadow side of the Server is becoming a martyr, a rescuer, or a do-gooder who sacrifices your own needs to keep everyone happy. Feeling drained or unappreciated? Yea, I see you.
Real talk, the Server archetype isn’t about overextending or losing yourself in the process.
It’s about slowing down enough to know exactly how much you have to give and when to say, “This is enough for now.”
You’re not here to be a savior or a slave… you’re here to be a conscious contributor who honors your limits and shares your gifts with clarity and confidence.
And I get it. Being a Server can sometimes feel like an endless hustle — like you’re doing everything for everyone else and forgetting your own pleasure in the process.
But when you learn to master this archetype, you'll discover the gifts of true maturity, authentic contribution, and the power of serving from a place of fullness — not depletion.
time to level up, Server
3 boss moves to master your give game ⬇️
#1
"Do I have capacity for this... Really?"
Is Your New Mantra
The most dangerous thing a Server can do is overextend without checking in with themselves first. Your body knows before your mind does whether you’re truly able to give what’s asked of you. The goal isn’t to push through until you’re drained - it’s to be honest about what you actually have the capacity for in this moment.
When you ask yourself this question and answer honestly, you shift from overdoing to owning your contribution. You serve with clarity, confidence, and power.
ACTION STEP: Before jumping into any act or commitment this week, pause and ask yourself: "Do I have the capacity for this (like, really)?"
Notice what your body tells you before your mind jumps in. That’s how you serve from a place of fullness, not depletion.
#2
Your Limits Are Not Limitations!
They're Liberation
Here's what nobody tells you: boundaries don't make you less generous… they make your generosity more precious. When you know your limits and communicate them clearly, your contribution becomes a true gift (one that’s appreciated, felt, and valued). People can sense when you're giving from abundance versus obligation and, trust me, abundance is way more magnetic.
ACTION STEP: Make a list of 5 things you're happy to give and 5 things you're not.
Practice saying "I'm not available for that" or “that’s not within my capacity” without explanation or apology.
#3
Safety to Express Is Non-Negotiable
The Servers's superpower is knowing what their partner enjoys and wants. But you can only give that gift when you feel safe to express your own truth. If you're walking on eggshells or afraid to voice your limits, you're not serving— you're enduring. And enduring is not hot.
ACTION STEP: Practice expressing one small preference or boundary each day.
Start with low-stakes situations like conditions around a task or expressing a “no” to a request that doesn’t feel right. Build that muscle so your boundaries become a natural part of your service: confident, clear, and unapologetic.
THE KEY TO SEXY ADULTING AS AN SERVER ⬇️
buckle up
lets talk about your secret resentment
🔑 The Pain and the Promise
Sound familiar? You give, and you give, and you give. You are a master of anticipating needs, creating clarity, and making others feel seen and supported. Your service is an art form.
But behind the scenes, you’re running a secret ledger.
Every act of service is a deposit, and you’re waiting for a withdrawal that never seems to come.
Like when you serve them a five-star meal, and you silently expect them to read your mind and offer a foot rub in return. When they don’t, a little drop of resentment hits the pan and starts to sizzle.
You’ve likely found yourself entangled with an unskilled Acceptor … the one who takes your generosity for granted, who never seems satisfied, who treats your energy like an infinite resource.
And you, unskilled in your service, push past your own limits, your "yes" becomes a lie, and the resentment builds until you finally explode over something stupid, like the dishes.
You’re left feeling like a bitter, unappreciated martyr, wondering why your generosity is never enough.
Now, Let's Engineer Your Integrity
Imagine this instead.
Your partner wants something. Before you even move, you pause.
You check in with your own body, your own capacity.
You look them in the eye and say, "I would love to do that for you. And for me to do it from a place of pure joy, I need [state your need/boundary clearly] first."
There’s no anger. No resentment. Just clean, clear information.
It's a non-negotiable requirement for your service, presented as a simple fact.
And the skilled Acceptor? They don’t see a demand. They see the instruction manual for how to keep their favorite power source fully charged.
They are thrilled to hear your needs and get creative on how to meet them, because it guarantees them the highest quality of your service.
You get to serve from a place of exhilarating fullness, not depletion. Your service becomes a potent, sought-after gift, precisely because it isn't always available.
You are no longer a 24/7 diner; you are the exclusive, Michelin-starred restaurant that’s worth the wait.
YOUR NEXT MOVE ⬇️
FROM 24/7 DINER TO RESERVATION ONLY
The quiz showed you who you are and your superpower. This starter guide showed you what’s possible when you stop giving it away for free. Now, it's time to pick up the tools to put your service behind a velvet rope.
It’s time to stop being an endless resource and start being an exclusive experience. That begins with engineering a system of powerful, non-negotiable boundaries.
That’s why I’m gifting you my masterclass, Mastering Intuitive Vetting & Boundaries that Nourish You. This is your shortcut to building the architecture that makes your service sustainable, sought-after, and deeply respected.
This is my gift to you — completely free for the next 14 days. ($333 Value)
My Gift to You
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In this masterclass, you will get the secret sauce to:
❤️🔥Vet partners with intuitive precision, ensuring they are worthy of your devotion before you even pour the wine.
❤️🔥Cultivate genuine boundaries that feel nourishing, turning your limits into the very thing that makes you more magnetic.
❤️🔥Own your sovereignty with unshakeable confidence, so you can serve from a place of exhilarating choice, not resentful obligation.
If you’re done with burnout, secret resentment, and feeling unappreciated, this is your moment. You don’t need to give less; you need to structure your giving like a boss.
But this invitation is for a limited time. In 14 days, this masterclass goes back behind the velvet rope. Don't sleep on this.
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You’ll rewrite boundaries as invitations (not walls), stop exhausting yourself with mental “what-if games” and swap people-pleasing for pleasure-seeking. Your “no” is about to get a major charisma upgrade, babes.
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WARNING: this class is not for souls who wanna confuse connection with self-sacrifice, or anyone who thinks ‘communication’ means endless emotional labor. hard pass.
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Because we’re not just talking about it. Chances are, you’ve read books (ergg IG posts) and still have no clue what you’re doing. I’m giving you my Boundaries Toolkit (No Fluff) too.
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What, trying to figure out if this webpage needs a glass of water or something?
Babe, your job isn't to serve me.
It's to serve yourself for once.
Clearly, you need this class.
So go on, put yourself first…
your future self will thank you 😘