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You are the Allower

Babessss, you're the one who gives freely! but let's be real, you've probably been called a "people pleaser" or told you're "too nice" more times than you can count.

You're the generous soul who knows how to make others feel good, but somewhere along the way, you forgot that saying "no" is just as sexy as saying "yes." You're here because you're tired of being everyone's doormat and ready to learn that true generosity starts with knowing your own damn limits. It's time to stop giving from empty and start giving from overflow.

True permission is not a blank check

It's a conscious choice made with full awareness of what you're offering.

So what does it all mean?

Listen up, love…
being an Allower means you're wired to let others do what they want, and you find your pleasure in their pleasure.

But here's the kicker: you've probably been doing it wrong. The shadow side of the Allower is becoming a doormat, tolerating bullshit, and saying "yes" when your body is screaming "hell no."

Real talk, the Allower archetype isn't about being okay with everything.

It's about slowing down enough to know what you're genuinely happy to give and what you absolutely are not.

You're not here to be a victim or a pushover… you're here to be a conscious, empowered giver who knows their worth and honors their limits.

And I get it. Being an Allower can feel disempowering, silencing, and even like you’re doubting your choices.

But when you learn to master this archetype, you'll discover the gifts of self-responsibility, genuine choice, real permission, and the most beautiful surrender that comes from trust.

time to level up, Allower

3 boss moves to master your give game ⬇️

#1

"Am I OK With This... Really?"
Is Your New Mantra

The most dangerous thing an Allower can do is give without checking in with themselves first. Your body knows before your mind does whether something feels good or not. The goal isn't to be okay with everything - it's to be honest about what you're genuinely willing to give.

When you ask yourself this question and answer truthfully, you transform from a pushover into a powerful, conscious giver.

ACTION STEP: Before saying "yes" to any request this week, pause and ask yourself: "Am I OK with this... really?"

Notice what your body tells you before your mind jumps in.

#2

Your Limits Are Not Limitations!

They're Liberation

Here's what nobody tells you: boundaries don't make you less generous… they make your generosity more precious. When you know your limits and communicate them clearly, the gift you give becomes authentic and valuable. People can sense when you're giving from obligation versus desire, and trust me, desire is way sexier.

ACTION STEP: Make a list of 5 things you're happy to give and 5 things you're not.

Practice saying "I'm not available for that" without explanation or apology.

#3

Safety to Express Is Non-Negotiable

The Allower's superpower is knowing what their partner enjoys and wants. But you can only give that gift when you feel safe to express your own truth. If you're walking on eggshells or afraid to voice your limits, you're not allowing — you're enduring. And enduring is not hot.

ACTION STEP: Practice expressing one small preference or boundary each day.

Start with low-stakes situations like choosing a restaurant or expressing a music preference.

THE KEY TO SEXY ADULTING AS AN ALLOWER ⬇️ 

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🔑 From Strategic Mind Games to Embodied Truth

Let me tell you… I wasn't the classic "yes person”. I was something sneakier.

I was the strategist, the one who'd analyze every interaction like a chess match, trying to figure out the "right" move to keep someone interested.

Should I say yes to this?
Will saying no make them leave?
What's the perfect balance that'll make them stay?

I was exhausted from constantly gaming out boundaries instead of actually feeling them. I thought if I could just crack the code, figure out the perfect formula, I'd win the relationship game and we'd ride off into the sunset.

Instead, I was trapped in my own head and wondering why nothing ever felt genuinely satisfying.

Then I discovered the a way to hold boundaries that stopped exhausting me and started nourishing me.

Game. Changer.

Before I mastered this relationship skill, I was stuck in my head, strategizing every move, second-guessing my desires, and exhausting myself trying to be the "perfect" partner instead of the real one.

NOW?! I audaciously trust my body's wisdom.
I have relationships where my authentic desires are met because I actually know what they are.
And my sex life? Pure embodied pleasure instead of mental chess games.
🔥I negotiate from my gut
🔥give and receive from genuine desire
🔥and build connections that are hot AND healing

The difference? I learned to trust my body's "yes" and "no" instead of my mind's chess game. And trust me, once you drop from your head into your body, everything changes — your relationships, your sex life, your entire sense of authenticity.

Ready to stop strategizing your way through intimacy so that your relationships are actually relaxing instead of stressful?

I got you. Keep reading.

Own Your Boundaries and Play with Power — safely AND sexy as fuck

you’ve got the desire, you’ve got the fire, but if you don’t know how to vet your partners, set boundaries that actually nourish you, and stay in your power without burning out then
your sex life stays stuck in the shallow end and, trust me, you’re meant to swim in the deep 😈

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